This is relatable: This, of course, was not true. I was really scared. Relocating is very scary, I’ve relocated 6 times for career opportunities/reasons, it’s like being in a horror show.
That is one of the possibilities I came up with. There are plenty more I thought about.
- she had also met a prior client who had been left by someone and was thinking that women don’t always get left.
- she was thinking of leaving someone and wanted proof that you can be functional after taking the drastic step.
- she had left someone and was saluting a comrade
- I totally misinterpreted her look and she was thinking “yeah right, your broken voice is telling that you are in the depths of despair and plainly lying to yourself
- my favourite- she thought- hmmmm, maybe getting a partner is not THE goal.
I see so many women in their early thirties writing about how hard it is to get married and I just want to say- people, that is not a goal, like, really, it’s not. Happiness is something you reach by yourself. The rest- marriage, children, or lack there of, career all of that is not a necessary condition. The only true need is self support (ie pay the bills) and friends, like really good ones. But that is just my take.
She likely was inter generational; the product of a long, on the surface happy, but very unhappy marriage - and she likely was raised to be independent, but struggled with the fact that her mom was (very) dependent on her Dad.
We could use this as a fictional story writing prompt. 4 friends, 4 takes on their relationships with their parents and their partners. One leaves, one has a bitter feeling until death, one stays and accepts that it’s not what she wanted but she finds happiness in other things and what could the fourth woman’s fate?
Yes, the fourth is perpetually single, a globetrotter, the other three live vicariously through her, and while her life appears Riley, she secretly admires something about each of the others that they don’t learn until she spills the beans on her finally trip to visit!
"“I was the asshole in this story! I deserve the scorn of the world!”
I've been there. This post nails that feeling, absolutely stunning.
Thank you Will. Hating yourself for hurting others is, in my humble opinion, the worst type of hate, it feels so deserved.
Totally--the sting is sharper if it's homespun
You were eager for adventure: the one thing you weren’t suppose to crave! 👏👏👏
Exacto!
wow - well written Ana.
This is relatable: This, of course, was not true. I was really scared. Relocating is very scary, I’ve relocated 6 times for career opportunities/reasons, it’s like being in a horror show.
I have questions. I love the way you face the world.
Fire away. 😊
Espere la versió en Español.
Your conversation with Lisa and her reactions struck me and I think maybe she is stuck in a worldview you escaped. I really enjoyed your perspective.
That is one of the possibilities I came up with. There are plenty more I thought about.
- she had also met a prior client who had been left by someone and was thinking that women don’t always get left.
- she was thinking of leaving someone and wanted proof that you can be functional after taking the drastic step.
- she had left someone and was saluting a comrade
- I totally misinterpreted her look and she was thinking “yeah right, your broken voice is telling that you are in the depths of despair and plainly lying to yourself
- my favourite- she thought- hmmmm, maybe getting a partner is not THE goal.
I see so many women in their early thirties writing about how hard it is to get married and I just want to say- people, that is not a goal, like, really, it’s not. Happiness is something you reach by yourself. The rest- marriage, children, or lack there of, career all of that is not a necessary condition. The only true need is self support (ie pay the bills) and friends, like really good ones. But that is just my take.
She likely was inter generational; the product of a long, on the surface happy, but very unhappy marriage - and she likely was raised to be independent, but struggled with the fact that her mom was (very) dependent on her Dad.
We could use this as a fictional story writing prompt. 4 friends, 4 takes on their relationships with their parents and their partners. One leaves, one has a bitter feeling until death, one stays and accepts that it’s not what she wanted but she finds happiness in other things and what could the fourth woman’s fate?
Yes, the fourth is perpetually single, a globetrotter, the other three live vicariously through her, and while her life appears Riley, she secretly admires something about each of the others that they don’t learn until she spills the beans on her finally trip to visit!
Perfect! There is never one truth.
And, as well as we think we know our friends, we never know what they are actually thinking, what really drives their motives!
That last one is what I thought as well. I think there are a lot of women who define themselves solely in their relations to men, unfortunately.
But I am a man. So i’m not really qualified to say.
I depend on wise women like you to let me know :)